People are always saying they want to feel better. But is that always true? Check deep inside of yourself. Do you really want to forgive your friend for stealing your lover, or your crazy neighbour for partying till the wee hours of the morning? Unless you can say yes, then perhaps you don't really want to feel peace. Do you think it's easier to stay angry at someone who hurt you? After all, you may not think they deserve to be forgiven. It might even feel good to stay angry.
The problem with staying angry is that you are really hurting yourself. As well, you are giving your power away to the other person. And finally, you are letting them decide how you feel.
Ask yourself if you really want to allow the other person's actions to be the deciding factor on whether or not you have a lovely day, or a lousy day. Only when you can truly say yes to wanting to feel good, can you start to change how you feel.
This can be said for all feelings that don't feel very good. Are you still grieving over a loss? Does it feel good to feel bad about that loss? Will the loss continue to decide how you feel today or any other day? Or do you choose now to set yourself free?
Carlos Castaneda said it best when he said: "We can make our self miserable, or we can make our self strong. The amount of work is the same."
Are you ready and willing now to change how you feel and let go of your story? That is when the fun really begins!