Dropping the Need for Things to be Different with Our Loved Ones

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When it comes to being neutral and non-reactive to people and situations, it is a lot easier when it isn't close or personal.  The closer and more personal things are, the harder it is to feel okay inside ourselves when things don't look the way we'd like them to.

What is really interesting for me this summer is that I'm noticing how much I resist how my loved ones show up in my life.  I want them to be happy and peaceful and when they don't show up that way I have resistance to how they are because I'd rather see them happy!!

Well a good lesson learned this past week, and some thoughts on the matter, really helped me to understand that it's OKAY for people to feel the way they feel and to make the decisions that they make.  I don't have to agree with what they do or say or how they feel.  But as soon as it brings me down, and I feel the NEED to cheer them up so I can feel more comfortable inside, I'm on the control side of things!

So this summer my goal is to allow my loved ones to show up however it is that they show up.  Allow them to experience life with all it's ups, downs, curves and straight lines.

Reminds me of a song (old old song) by Dan Hill.  Here's an excerpt of the words:

"Welcome baby boy to a brand new world.  May the tears fall like a rainstorm from your eyes.  Looks like life kinda took ya by surprise.  Oh, surprise.

You're so tiny that is scares me, and so charged with life it makes me so happy that I think I'm gonna cry.  Life has come to meet you child, play it safe, play it wild, reach for the truth, beyond the rules, beyond the games.  Life is yours and yours alone, free to settle, free to roam.  Free to grow and free to change, or free to fight to stay the same....."

It's really about allowing, and dropping our NEED to have our loved ones be, and show up, differently in our lives.  So today and this summer, I focus on dropping my need to have things my way.  And to be comfortable and okay inside myself regardless of what others choose.

Many Blessings and have a fun weekend!

Maureen

The Problem with Positive Thinking

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Thinking positive is really what everyone is trying to do, and done correctly it's just great!

There are however, some clear misunderstandings about positive thinking, which can actually be very harmful.  I see this quite often when working with clients and thought it would be a good idea to clarify what positive thinking really is.

When you feel great and you are thinking that life is good, it's easy to think positive.  That's easy.  But what happens when you have a rough day and don't feel very good about life?

So many people will force themselves to think happy thoughts and block out the feelings that they are actually having in their body.  I am not talking about the stories going around in our heads, I'm talking about the actual visceral physical feelings in the body.

To disregard these feelings and push them away, like they don't exist, will just bury them in the body.  Later, of course, they produce pain, disease and discomfort.  These blockages are what prevent us from rising in consciousness as well because they have an energy signature to them that is of a lower vibration.

Rather than disregard these feelings by "thinking positive", tend to them by feeling them.  All you have to do is pay attention to the feelings and watch them.  Oberserve them neutrally.  A positive thought at this time would just be to drop the story that triggered the feeling in the body, know that the feelings are not who you are, and watch them.  Knowing that they will pass and that all is in Divine timing is also a positive thought at this time.

A very good example of this is a woman who called me because she was in terrible pain all throughout her body.  I worked with her until she started to cry and the pain began to subside.  I asked her if she had ever cried after her husband has passed.  She told me that no, she hadn't cried, and dare she feel sorry for herself!  She'd had a great life with this man who left her quite comfortable and she would not resort to crying or feeling sorry for herself.

What the pain was trying to tell her was that she was grieving for her husband, yet she pushed it away for almost a year and wouldn't feel the grief.  It was just a misunderstanding about what grief is, and what feeling sorry for herself was.  She was doing her version of positive thinking!  My suggestion was to feel the feelings in her body and to know that the sadness she felt would pass if she acknowledged it.  Her pain improved overnight!

So positive thinking is great, in context.  But ignoring what is right there staring you in the face is harmful to the physical and energetic bodies.  So honour what is, even when it's uncomfortable or painful.  And think positive about that discomfort or pain, and know that it will pass, and it's not who you truly are.  Let your mind wander to lovely things too, like your children, pets, flowers etc.  But truly look at what is there and don't push it away.  It will just create a time bomb that will go off later with some sort of health issue.

Many Blessings,

Maureen

What Kinds of Questions Can I Ask???

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The Universe/God whatever you like to call the Divine Power that has created all that there is, is always delivering to you everything you ask for.  The reason it doesn't always arrive at our doorsteps though, is because we aren't open to receiving everything we ask for.  We block it out with our subconscious programs.  Remember that the subconscious mind is a million times more powerful than the conscious mind, so it is really important to make sure that your subconscious mind is going in the direction you want it to!!  You might want to travel east, but if your subconscious mind is travelling west you'll always face difficulty getting where you want to go, if indeed you ever even get there!

Often people think that they have the subconscious programs for something when they really don't at all.  I continuously work with people who are shocked at what beliefs are not in their subconscious programs, because consciously they truly believe it with all their heart and soul!!!  Big difference!

So ask questions that will open you up to the gifts you've asked for!  Here are some sample questions:

What would it take for all of my dreams to come true?
What would it take for me to have clarity about my career path?
What would it take for me to have the most joyful day of my life ever, today?
What would it take for all the prosperity and abundance I've ever dreamed of, to come to me now?
How could I be more healthy and energetic than I ever dreamed possible?
How could I grow younger physically/biologically in every cell of my body in every way in every moment of every day?

Just keep asking - the sky is the limit.  Send the questions out as much as possible.  REMEMBER though, don't answer the questions.  Allow the receiving to come in the perfect time and in whatever way it shows up.  Living from the question will help you to open up (at the subconscious level) to receiving!!!  Let go and allow!!

Living from the Question

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This is also known as being open to all possibilities.  How often do we want a change in our lives and assume that we know all the ways that the change can occur?  Every time we come to a conclusion about what has to happen for that change, we limit the Universe from gifting to us in infinite ways.  Be open to all possibilities.  Don't answer the questions you ask.  Just live from the question.  Living from the question allows us to be open to receive much more abundantly!!!

So You Want to Change Things?

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The only thing you need to do is FEEL differently about what it is you are looking at.  It's called the "observer effect".  It's a universal law.  When you change how you feel when you are looking at something, what you are looking at changes.  Go inside yourself if you want change.  Drop the finger pointing, the blame and trying to make everyone else change.  It's an inside job!

Divine Timing

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Many people believe in Divine timing until tragedy hits.  Then they question why, why, and why?  This shouldn't have happened!  Well guess what folks?  We never see the big picture and it is always Divine timing.  We are all where we are supposed to be.
At a higher level we all sign up for things before we come back here to our lovely planet Earth.  It's just that we cannot see it clearly because we have had a veil pulled over our expansive vision.  Good thing eh?  Otherwise we'd go crazy.  But we all make spiritual contracts before we come here.
Now some of you will say "I would never have signed up for this!  It's an accident."  But honestly even accidents have Divine timing.  Just find some solace today in knowing that you truly are where you are supposed to be and that every challenge, problem and tragedy are opportunities for spiritual growth.  It's one of the big reasons why you came here - to experience those problems and move through them and in the process transform yourself.  You are an eternal being!

Neutrality

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Neutrality.  Not what many people think it is.  When I say I endeavour to be neutral and non-reactive in any given situation, what I mean is that I maintain a calm feeling of ease in my body.  It doesn't mean I don't have an opinion about it.  Quite the contrary.  I may even dislike the situation quite a bit.  It's just about forgiveness in the moment.  Staying at peace within one's self regardless of what's going on.  That allows you to keep your power, raise your frequency, and affect everyone around you in a positive way.  Mother Teresa understood this well.  She said don't invite me to an anti-war rally.  I won't come.  Invite me to a peace march.  Keep your light, and let it shine, regardless of what comes your way.  It's how we positively affect the world around us.  It's our calling. :o)  Have a great day!